Do you feel like you're in control of your life, or do you feel like things just happen on their own? The concept of “locus of control” will help you understand how confident you are in your ability to influence events and change lives for the better, as well as teach your child how to do this.
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What is the locus of control
The locus of control is a psychological concept that shows whether a person believes that they are in control of their own life, or whether they believe that everything about it is determined by external circumstances. The term was coined by psychologist Julian Rotter in the 1950s.
Two types of locus of control
1. Internal locus of control
People with an internal locus of control believe that they themselves influence events in their lives through actions, efforts, and decisions. They tend to take responsibility for successes and failures and believe in their ability to make a difference.
2. External locus of control
People with an external locus of control believe that their lives are determined by external factors, such as luck, chance, or others' actions. They may feel more dependent on their environment and less confident in their ability to influence things.
Why is it important to understand your own locus of control?
The locus of control can have a significant impact on a person's behavior and psychological well-being. For example, an internal location of control is often associated with greater motivation to achieve goals and better adaptation to stressful situations, while an external location of control can lead to feelings of helpfulness depending on the circumstances or the state of “victim”.
Features of people with an external locus of control
#1 Feeling helpless
Such people feel that external circumstances are stronger than them, and they are unable to change anything. This makes them passive and lethargic.
#2 Tendency to accuse
They may look for the reasons for their failures in external factors or other people rather than in their own actions (or inaction).
#3 Low motivation
Because of the belief that their efforts do not affect the result, they do not want to set and achieve goals.
#4 Stress and anxiety
Because they believe they have no control over their lives, they are very anxious and often tense.
#5 Dependence on others' opinions
People with an external locus of control are more likely to be influenced by the opinions of others and are dependent on approval from others.
Characteristics of people with an internal locus of control
#1 Responsibility
People with an internal locus of control tend to take responsibility for their actions and results. They believe they can make a difference by making an effort.
#2 Self-confidence
People with an internal locus of control believe they can change their lives at will.
#3 Motivation
Such people are more motivated and goal-oriented. They are confident that their efforts will produce the desired results.
#4 Adaptability
A person with an internal locus of control adapts more easily to changes and stressful situations, as he believes that he is able to cope with any difficulties.
#5 Problem-oriented approach
In difficult situations, such people tend to seek solutions and act actively to overcome obstacles.
How the locus of control affects our well-being
Research shows that an internal locus of control has a positive impact on health. It also improves self-control, allowing a person to consciously form healthy habits. Such a person is less likely to smoke or drink, exercise and choose healthy foods. As a result, people with an internal locus of control are less likely to get sick.
Scientists have also found that people's attitudes towards their health are often correlated with their financial well-being. A person who cares about his health usually avoids unnecessary expenses and rash loans. Thus, the internal locus of control promotes both healthier lifestyle choices and responsible financial behavior.
How to reduce the impact of an external locus of control
#1. It's up to me to decide
Recognize your role in what is happening and take responsibility for your decisions and actions.
#2. I can
Set small goals that depend on your efforts. This will help you see the first results and believe in yourself.
#3. I can do it
Analyze all the situations you find yourself in and try to overcome difficulties.
#4. Learn new things
Learn new skills and knowledge to increase your confidence in your ability to influence events.
#5. I'm doing well
Focus on the positive aspects of life and look for opportunities for personal growth even in difficult situations.
How to develop an internal locus of control
No.1. Introspection
Review your actions and results regularly to understand the connection between them.
#2. Setting goals
Set clear goals and develop plans to achieve them. This will help you see the results of your efforts.
#3. feedback
Accept constructive criticism and use it to improve your skills and approaches.
#4. Self-efficiency
Work to develop confidence in your abilities by learning new skills and problem solving.
#5. Positive thinking
Focus on the positive aspects of the situation and look for opportunities to grow even under difficult circumstances.
How to help your child develop an internal locus of control
Developing a child's internal locus of control is a task that requires patience and consistency. It is important to remember that this is a gradual process. Here are five key points to consider:
No.1. I'm myself
Give your child the opportunity to make decisions and take responsibility for their actions. Start with small tasks, gradually increasing the difficulty. For example, let him choose his own clothes, schedule his activities, or help with household chores. Of course, it's important to give him a reasonable choice.
#2. Everything can be solved
Help your child learn to solve problems on their own. When a difficult situation arises, don't rush to solve it for him right away. Instead, ask leading questions to help him find a solution on his own. Teach your child to analyze the situation, generate ideas, and assess possible consequences.
#3. You're smart!
Praise your child for his efforts and achievements, even if the result is not perfect. Focus on the process, not just the result. This will help the child feel more confident and motivate him to take further action.#4. Emotions under control
Help your child learn to control their emotions and reactions. Deep breathing and meditation for children can be very useful practices. It is important for the child to understand that he can influence his condition and respond to situations more appropriately.
#5. Behavior model
Be a positive example for your child. Demonstrate an internal locus of control in actions and decisions. Show him that you are able to influence your own life and achieve your goals.
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